Showing someone you're thinking of them is one of the most important things you can do to help them through a difficult time. And if you can't be there in person to offer a hug or a listening ear, a thoughtfully written card is the next best thing.
But finding the right words to offer condolences when someone has lost a loved one can be really difficult. How do you express the magnitude of their loss, and your sadness for them – especially if you're grieving too?
We can't promise to give you the perfect words – because, honestly, there aren't any – but with our guide on what to write in a sympathy card we can help you craft a message that will help lift your loved ones' spirits and send them comfort when they need it most.
What to write in a sympathy card
In our guide below you'll find short and simple messages (ideal for acquaintances and colleagues), longer messages for closer friends and family, and a few handy pieces of advice on what to write in a sympathy card.
Simple condolence card messages
You can say a lot in a few words, so don't feel that you have to write paragraphs in your card. Sometimes a simple message is best.
- I'm so sorry for your loss.
- Sending love to you and your family.
- I'm keeping you in my thoughts.
- My heartfelt condolences.
- Thinking of you. With love.
- My heart goes out to you. Sending lots of love.
- Wishing you love and peace at this difficult time.
- I'm here for you if you need anything.
- My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
- Deepest sympathy to you and your family.
- He/she/they will be missed.
Do it yourself
A handmade card is a lovely way to show you care. Find the supplies you need with our guide to the best card making kits.
Tips for writing a sympathy card
Offer help, not advice
Everyone grieves in different ways, so be wary of suggesting coping advice as what works for you may not work for someone else.
What you could offer, though, is help. Whether it's dropping off meals or looking after the kids, practical support can make things a little easier for the bereaved.
Write by hand
Taking the time to craft a handwritten note is a kind way to show you care. Whatever you say will seem more sincere and authentic if it's in your own hand – no matter how messy your writing!
Share memories
Don't be afraid to celebrate the life, as well as mourning the death. You might want to mention any special memories you have of the person or times when you were together.
What to write in a sympathy card for friends and family
It can be tricky to find the right style and tone for a sympathy card, so use these condolence card messages as inspiration. Send love and support with a thoughtful greeting, like the ones below.
- What a remarkable life. I feel lucky to have known [insert name].
- [Insert name] was an amazing person. They touched so many lives.
- You're in my thoughts as you celebrate the life of [insert name]. He/she/they is/are forever in our hearts.
- So sorry to hear about the passing of [insert name]. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.
- [Insert name] will live on in our hearts. I'm grateful to have had a chance to know him/her/them.
- My deepest condolences over the loss of [insert name]. May the memories you made together bring you comfort and peace at this difficult time.
- Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. [Insert name] will forever be remembered by those who loved him/her/them.
- I was deeply saddened to hear about the loss of [insert name]. Please know that I am thinking of you in this challenging time.
- My heartfelt sympathies on the loss of [insert name]. Sending love and strength to you and your family.
- I am so deeply sorry for your loss and am holding you in my thoughts during this difficult time.
Sympathy cards to buy
Choose a card with our pick of the best traditional and modern designs.
1. Eucalyptus card
This elegant card by Lisa Marie Designs can be personalised with the recipient's name, and you can also pick from a range of colour themes, including yellow, blue and brown. If you need your card to arrive quickly, add your message at checkout and send it direct.
- Buy the Eucalyptus card from Not on the High Street
2. Love and Strength card
Send two things they may be in need of with this Love and Strength card from Graphic Factory. The A6 card is blank inside and proudly made in Britain.
- Buy the Love and Strength card from Etsy
3. Thinking of You card
This pretty floral card from Made by Shannon is also plantable, as the paper is embedded with wildflower and grass seeds. It comes with a recyclable envelope and compostable cellophane packaging for an eco-friendly way to let someone know you're thinking of them.
- Buy the Thinking of You card from Not on the High Street
4. With Sympathy card
Dainty meadow flowers and buzzing bees adorn this traditional sympathy card. Designed by Ink and Snail, it measures 15cm square and is blank inside for you to write your own message.
- Buy the With Sympathy card from Etsy
5. Sorry for Your Loss card
Send sympathy on the loss of a pet with this paw print-themed card by Jessica Eyre. Choose from A5 size or A4 for real impact – and why not add a gift of chocolate or flowers to your order too?
- Buy the Sorry for Your Loss card from Thortful
Spread your wings
The origami crane has become a symbol of hope and healing. Make one today for someone facing challenging times.
Discover what to write in a sympathy card
When you're writing a sympathy card, it's truly the thought that counts. Whether you keep your message short and simple, or you feel comfortable writing a little more, what really matters is that you've reached out to someone in their time of need.
We hope our guide has helped you find the right words to offer comfort and condolences to a friend or family member.
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